Your inner critic is the little ‘person’ or ‘thing’ that resides in your head that warns you not to do things.
It tries to inform your behaviour and second guess what might happen.
Your inner critic would rather put you off doing something than let you try.
We all have it. Some admit to it, some don’t.
I’m not talking about hearing voices here - that is something very different. Rather, I refer to the little (or big) voice that pops up when you are venturing outside of your comfort zone. It sees itself as a voice of reason.
Believe it or not, your inner critic means no harm - it serves purely to protect you. To keep you safe.
And it is currently on overtime.
Your inner critic is being triggered not only by what is actually happening (the facts) but, more worryingly, by everyone's interpretation of them. And how things should be done.
Your inner critic is struggling to make sense of this. It may make you think you have to follow and try to encourage you to do so. It may make you feel that you are not enough if you aren't taking part in a mass trend or following.
Save yourself a job. There is no need.
There has never been a better time to be like you!
There is no right way to be. No right amount to do. And no right way to do it.
Don't wear yourself out trying.
And let's just be real for a moment here, shall we?
We are all spending a lot of time in our heads at the moment - aren't we?
And as we try to make sense of everything, we need to dial down the noise from outside.
It is also time for your inner critic to self isolate too.
To be clear. There are no should's. Not before this. And most definitely not now.
You don’t need anyone to tell you how this is done. You have everything you need to do that for yourself.
A really useful exercise here is to catch the thoughts of your inner critic as they arise and write them down.
When you see them in front of you in black and white, you can ask yourself whether you actually agree with them.
Quite often, it will be the words of someone that has been a critical influence in your life. This may be someone that operates from a negative platform that has continually warned of failure, bad luck, threat and danger. Or perhaps, someone that has judged you and consistently persuaded you that you are not good enough until you believe them.
Remember, these are merely thoughts and opinions that have been ascribed to you by another. They are not facts.
Once you start deal with the facts, life gets a whole lot easier.
And one fact that is fast emerging as we look up and around, is that we are all quite happy and grateful for our little lot right now, aren’t we?
We are realising who is important and what is important.
We are using our innate ability to think for ourselves and be our own judges.
And with that comes a tremendous feeling of relief.
Can you feel it?
If any of this resonates and you feel that coaching may be helpful, you can book a call with me to find out how I can support you.
My name is Nicky Kentisbeer and I am a Mindset & Confidence Coach.
I support women like you to work on your mindset and develop the confidence that you need to move beyond the challenges that are keeping you stuck, towards a place that you would much rather be.
I do this based on the belief that you have within you the most incredible resources and capabilities to find your own solutions - irrespective of your background or starting point. There is no barrier to entry.
Maybe you have a feeling of being stuck, going round in circles or living the same day over and over? Or you are finding that the way you approach problems and challenges always gives you the same result. And it’s not the one that you want.
The feeling of being stuck is incredibly disempowering because it brings about feelings of indecision, procrastination, overthinking and fear which in turn can affect our self-belief and confidence.
And if you stop to think about it, you may find that you fear success as much as you do failure. Sometimes staying stuck may feel like a safer place to be when the alternative means change and stepping outside of your comfort zone? There is nothing unusual here as we do all have a tendency to stand in our own way at times.
This may happen because you have lost sight of how resourceful you are. You may also allow old beliefs and stories to inform your response to what is going on for you currently. Yet, much of this narrative is historical and it is no longer relevant to your life now and the choices that you make.
As your coach, I can support you to understand and address the things that may be holding you back from achieving your goals.
Through 1-to-1 coaching sessions, we will explore what it is that you want and the steps that you need to take to get started. I will ask lots of questions! Questions that you may not have asked of yourself. It is through these questions that I invite you to look at things in different ways, from a different perspective and access your own solutions accordingly. I will invite you to look at old beliefs and the stories that you may be telling yourself about your abilities.
I do not teach nor tell you how things should be done. And there is no judgement. If this resonates with you, I invite you to book a free 30-minute call with me to discuss whether coaching would be the right approach for you to start turning your ideas and aspirations into action.