You had the power all along, my dear!

This is one of my all time favourite quotes. The Wizard of Oz was a very big part of our lives as a family when our daughter was very small. All of the little girls adored Dorothy and for a period of time when the production was in the West End, there were lots of little girls running around dressed as Dorothy in their blue gingham dresses and red sparkly shoes.

Both this quote and the picture resonate with me on so many levels. It has pride of place on the home page of my website.

Firstly, as the mother of a daughter. Because we all believe in our kids and want the best for them, don't we. We see their strengths and their weaknesses and we love every single bit of them for the raw unpolished little humans that they are. And what they will become. Possibility is all around them.

This is something that we see in others too. We often recognise strength in others that we don't see in ourselves. Weird that, huh?

It also resonates with me as a coach. Because I believe that every single one of my clients has it within them to achieve whatever they want to. To make their own decisions, take action and get the results that they want. Coaching isn't about giving people advice though. Because although that may seem very nice and helpful - it's shortlived. That would be a bit like Glinda waving her magic wand and granting our wishes, wouldn't it? It's fine if you want to end up on a Caribbean Island but not so great for the general life shizz!

Once she's gone, you are on your own again. Back where you started.

But the truth is that you don't really need a Glinda.

The difference of course is that you have to want to make the change. And that's the hard bit because staying rooted to what you know, as much as you despise it - keeps you safe, doesn't it. It takes away the fear of the unknown. You know what you are getting. It becomes a comfy pair of slippers. There is comfort in the familiar and that is wonderful. As long as it is wonderful?

"Or is it time to click your own red sparkly shoes"?

Because if you are done with living the same day over and over, and fed up that you are saying the same thing as this time last year, then you might want to ask yourself this :

"How much is it costing me to stay the same?"

Ponder this question for a while. See what comes up.

It is only when the desire to change becomes greater than the fear itself that we start to find our way forward.

The women that come to me for coaching are often at this stage. Coaching is not a service that you can force upon people. Clients have to self-select. To want to start taking action. Otherwise it doesn't work.

I hear things like :

"I thought I would never be able to change"
"I'd lost so much confidence that I became a shell of my old self"
"I realise that it's only me that can make these changes"

And you know what? All of this is OK. It's honest. It's raw. But more importantly, it's real. And many of us will have said these things at some point or another.

Because we are all real aren't we and we all go through times when we need to navigate a new route. Just remember to click those heels from time to time, won't you.

Because you absolutely can!

"..........if ever I go looking for my heart's desire again, I shouldn't look any further than my own backyard"
Dorothy , Wizard of Oz x


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My name is Nicky Kentisbeer and I am a Mindset & Confidence Coach. I support women to work on their mindset and develop the confidence that they need to move beyond the challenges that are keeping them stuck, towards a place that they would much rather be. I do this based on the belief that we have within us the most incredible resources and capabilities to find our own solutions - irrespective of our background or starting point. There is no barrier to entry.

Maybe you have a feeling of being stuck, going round in circles or living the same day over and over? Or, are you finding that the way you approach problems and challenges always gives you the same result? And it’s not the one that you want. The feeling of being stuck is incredibly disempowering because it brings about feelings of indecision, procrastination, overthinking and fear which in turn can affect our self-belief and confidence. And if you stop to think about it, you may find that you fear success as much as you do failure. Sometimes staying stuck may feel like a safer place to be when the alternative means change and stepping outside of your comfort zone? There is nothing unusual here as we do all have a tendency to stand in our own way at times. This may happen because you have lost sight of how resourceful you are. You may also allow old beliefs and stories to inform your response to what is going on for you currently. Yet, much of this narrative is historical and it is no longer relevant to your life now and the choices that you make. As your coach, I can support you to understand and address the things that may be holding you back from achieving your goals. Through 1-to-1 coaching sessions, we will explore what it is that you want and the steps that you need to take to get started. I will ask lots of questions! Questions that you may not have asked of yourself. It is through these questions that I invite you to look at things in different ways, from a different perspective and access your own solutions accordingly. I will invite you to look at old beliefs and the stories that you may be telling yourself about your abilities. I do not teach nor tell you how things should be done. And there is no judgement. If this resonates with you, I invite you to book a free 30-minute call with me to discuss whether coaching would be the right approach for you to start turning your ideas and aspirations into action.