Imposter Syndrome is the term used to describe the feelings of inadequacy that persist in our minds despite evidence to the contrary.
Imposter Syndrome gives rise to a tendency towards self-doubt and feelings of being ‘a fraud’ and we may ask ourselves questions such as ‘who am I to be doing this?’ when we find ourselves in new and different situations that challenge us.
When challenged, these thoughts are generally found to have no bearing on reality or the truth and should therefore not be used as evidence of our competence or otherwise. They are certainly not a tool by which to measure our ability or success.
It is the origin of these thoughts that we must question as they are likely to be based on limiting beliefs that we hold about ourselves. Such beliefs are undoubtedly based on historic events and these beliefs, whilst serving to protect us, can prevent us from moving forward with our daily lives. Imposter Syndrome may also prevent us from taking advantage of opportunities that are offered to us because we may feel as though we have been asked by mistake or perhaps that we may be found out to be a 'fake'.
I have always been incredibly interested in understanding more about Imposter Syndrome. It is something that comes up for many women, irrespective of who they are and what they do. You may also be surprised to hear that it comes up for men too!
Key to the the success of overcoming Imposter Syndrome, is to recognise it for what it is. Once we bring it into our awareness, it starts to lose its power over us. Just like all beliefs.
Many of our Imposter Syndrome thoughts are based on limiting beliefs or the 'unrealistic expecatations' that we have placed upon ourselves. They may also have been ascribed to us by others. And whilst we have carried these 'thoughts' with us, the truth is that they no longer serve us. Neither are they relevant to our current situation.
If you are interested in understanding more about Imposter Syndrome, you may like to download my free guide 'Who do you think you are?'.
This guide is intended to highlight some of the more common Imposter Syndrome 'thoughts' that come up and to offer you the opportunity to challenge them as they arise by asking you questions to consider as you work your way through.
When we ask ourselves questions that we may not have asked before, our subconscious mind is challenged to find an answer. This is where we are able to access new solutions and start to challenge our negative thought patterns.
If this post has resonated with you and you feel that you are being held back by some of the thoughts, emotions or feelings that I discuss, I invite you to book a call with me to discuss whether coaching could help you to move forward.
If you found this post helpful, you may also find this post useful too - What is a Limiting Belief?
My name is Nicky Kentisbeer and I am a Mindset & Confidence Coach. I support women to work on their mindset and develop the confidence that they need to move beyond the challenges that are keeping them stuck, towards a place that they would much rather be. I do this based on the belief that we have within us the most incredible resources and capabilities to find our own solutions - irrespective of our background or starting point. There is no barrier to entry.
Maybe you have a feeling of being stuck, going round in circles or living the same day over and over? Or, are you finding that the way you approach problems and challenges always gives you the same result? And it’s not the one that you want. The feeling of being stuck is incredibly disempowering because it brings about feelings of indecision, procrastination, overthinking and fear which in turn can affect our self-belief and confidence. And if you stop to think about it, you may find that you fear success as much as you do failure. Sometimes staying stuck may feel like a safer place to be when the alternative means change and stepping outside of your comfort zone? There is nothing unusual here as we do all have a tendency to stand in our own way at times. This may happen because you have lost sight of how resourceful you are. You may also allow old beliefs and stories to inform your response to what is going on for you currently. Yet, much of this narrative is historical and it is no longer relevant to your life now and the choices that you make. As your coach, I can support you to understand and address the things that may be holding you back from achieving your goals. Through 1-to-1 coaching sessions, we will explore what it is that you want and the steps that you need to take to get started. I will ask lots of questions! Questions that you may not have asked of yourself. It is through these questions that I invite you to look at things in different ways, from a different perspective and access your own solutions accordingly. I will invite you to look at old beliefs and the stories that you may be telling yourself about your abilities. I do not teach nor tell you how things should be done. And there is no judgement. If this resonates with you, I invite you to book a free 30-minute call with me to discuss whether coaching would be the right approach for you to start turning your ideas and aspirations into action.