It's been a funny old week, hasn't it!
And that is not intended to be a statement of the blooming obvious.
What I mean here - is that it's been similar to the last two, but at the same time, very, very different.
Different feels, different emotions, different arguments. In some ways it's been a regurgitation of the same whilst at the same time we are doing everything for the first time - badly.
Random conversations are prevailing and half the time we haven't a clue what it is we are saying - let alone our point.
Because there isn't always a point in our ramblings at the moment - neither does there need to be one.
And that is rather refreshing in itself, isn't it. Anything goes and rule books are out of the window.
You can be whatever you want to be - every day.
Some days we choose and others we work with what we have.
Our state of mind is going through four seasons in a day and it is likely that we have had what feels like Christmas leftovers in our diet at least once since Sunday.
All is well.
Expect the unexpected
We all have our own version of normal.
As I gently suggested to my husband who wasn't expecting me to come back with shopping on Monday, 'it's a good time to expect the unexpected'.
And not to put too fine a point on it, I also offered the words 'do not be surprised if I come home on a bloody elephant at the moment, love'.
I did of course say that in my 'I feel for you' voice rather than from a position of anger.
And we are all having those conversations, aren't we?
Things are jarring.
One minute we are speaking through gritted teeth and the next we are crying because a banana has gone off.
And whilst some people are lonely, others are wishing that they were lonely.
Some are wishing their home was full of noise and people whilst others are wishing they had a one-bedroom flat.
The grass is always greener on the other side. Until you are on it.
Seeing someone you hold in high esteem wearing a Cravat for the first time is painful. It rocks your world and life as you know it.
These things are happening all around us.
I cast no aspersions here as I reach for a different version of the same outfit each day.
I feel like a winner because I had the presence of mind to wear a flip flop to go to the car on Monday.
Right now, however we show up is progress.
And my general rule of thumb at times like this is not to be surprised.
And with this comes acceptance.
Because if someone has always invaded your personal space and talked at you, they aren't suddenly going to stop and become the world champion at judging a 2 metre distance.
It's not happening.
Likewise, if someone is inclined to cycle at people that are in their way, the current world situation is not going to change that in two weeks.
Someone will always see their need as greater.
And we may be that person in someone else's eyes today.
The person that is perceived to be the one that has pushed in.
We all are coming at this through a different lens.
And there is most definitely peace in acceptance.
Even if it's with an eye roll thrown in.
Every silver lining has cloud
There are big shifts towards feeling positive one minute to beaten the next.
There are benefits to being a moaner and there are benefits to being upbeat.
All things in moderation I say. You've got to find your own level here.
We are all facing our own struggles.
Choose your team wisely.
Paranoia has never been so fashionable.
I think it’s true to say that we’re all a bit paranoid right now.
And in all honesty, I’d be worried if I wasn’t.
Going for a walk is like being in a giant computer game. Negotiating who lies ahead and wondering if they are a 'mover' or a 'stayer' becomes a daily challenge.
We have gone from being a nation of ‘pleasing’ and ‘doing the right thing’ to crossing over, walking in the road or mounting a muddy grass verge just to put space between us and our fellow human beings.
Whilst mumbling under our breath 'I'll move, shall I?'
Just a few weeks ago, we may have wondered why someone was avoiding us. Fast forward to today and we have never been more grateful for them doing so.
In fact, it’s never been so acceptable to distance ourselves.
And as things currently stand, I would rather walk around a car park than have to share the same space as someone jogging in their shoes and work jumper. Because they are!
We all have our own versions of what we are comfortable with.
The things that we do, and the places that we go to that shape our lives, have changed. And they will continue to do so. Irrespective of who we are.
For my part as a small business owner and a start-up, it's case of rebuilding, re-prioritising and placing myself where I am most needed. One day that may be manning the home tea-trolley and the next it's getting a plan together. Many of us are wearing lots of different hats at the moment. It's a time of taking stock.
I feel proud to be part of the army of small business owners. Over the last few weeks, I have seen the things that define this group of people. This is a group of people for whom the antidote to not being entitled to any support, is going back to the drawing board and starting over. Asking themselves 'what else can I do?' And then doing it.
Falling and getting back up again. Every day. On repeat.
And we are seeing this everywhere.
Every single one of us is facing a huge shake-up in our working life and we are all asking ourselves the same questions.
And wherever we find ourselves today, tomorrow and yesterday, is where we need to be.
There has never been a better time dance to our own tune.
To find out what it is that really lights us up and give it all we've got.
Stay safe lovely people.
My name is Nicky Kentisbeer and I am a Small Business and Personal Growth Coach.
My current priority is to work with those that are most in need. Irrespective of who they are and what they do.
Because at a time when listening is a particularly rare commodity, this is where coaching comes in.
I do not teach nor tell you how things should be done. And there is no judgement.
I will ask you a lot of questions.
The reason for this is because you have within you an amazing capacity to find solutions.
I listen and the questions I ask are focused entirely on you and what you are saying. I don’t offer advice because you have all of the answers already. I help you to find them so that you can keep on moving forward. However that may look for you right now.
It is through these questions that I am able to support you to look at things in different ways and access your own solutions. I will invite you to look at old beliefs and the stories that you may be telling yourself about your abilities. These are often the reasons why we feel stuck and paralysed during times of change.
I offer coaching on a 1:1 basis via telephone or video conference. You can find out more about how to work with me here.
I am currently affiliated with a group supporting key workers and offering support via their portal once it is mobilised. Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or if I can be of help in this regard.